Letting go of someone is one of the hardest thing to do in life, it is not easy as it is been said.
Sometimes when we get stuck in the past by holding on to someone we once loved, we in one way or the other stop ourselves from living the best life we desire.
Some go to the extent of keeping the physical items of their partner and even scrolling through their old text messages.
The thought of not having that person back can affect our mental reality, and it will make life difficult for us. We prefer the status quo of familarity despite it being emotionally painful.
Letting go is more or less like grief. You don’t know exactly where it’s going and everyday seems different. On a normal day, you think it is the right thing to do and on a bad day there is this kind of self doubt that haunt you.
We invest so much of ourselves into a relationship that when the time come for us to say goodbye, it is more or less like saying goodbye to a huge part of ourselves.
But the truth of the matter is that, in life there are time when you will have no other option than to just look inside of yourself and admit to the fact that it’s done, it’s over, and it’s time to move on.
Letting go of someone you love is a gradual process, you can’t just wake up one morning and decide to forget the person you once loved, it doesn’t work that way.
Do you want to keep feeling the same pain everyday through staying attached or you want to give yourself a chance of letting go and helping yourself not to feel the pain anymore?.
There are so many steps to guide you on how to let go. Although they might not be easy, but it is the best thing for you.
Below are some steps that will help you in letting go of someone you love, most importantly, help you start moving forward in life and become happy again.
(1) Separate Yourself:
The separation we are talking about here is not only about putting physical space between the both of you. The kind of separation we mean here constitutes a mental and emotional separation from that person.
You know, when you fall in love with someone, you kind of feel what they are feeling and understand them better than anyone else. The first step of letting go of someone you love is disassociation.
You have no chioce than to imagine yourself as a distinct individual, separate yourself from your ex partner desires and emotions.
(2) Talk To Someone:
You have to let out those emotions because keeping them bottled in won’t do you any good. Talk to someone you trust about it, hearing their perspective can make things more clear.
By doing this, you release your emotions burden. Talk things out to look for a way forward. Listen to the advice you are given and see if you can use any them to let go.
(3) Take care of yourself:
When going through emotional pain, it is not that easy to take care of yourself. Although taking care of yourself won’t make you completely happy, but it can make you less sad.
Eat good food, get yourself new dresses, get some sunlight and do stuffs you love a lot, it goes a long way in letting go of someone.
(4) Be Active: You need to do things that will make you get your mind off that person. Being active will help you.
Don’t just sit down, find something to do with your life because you still have a life to live. Helping others can also help you feel better.